Plain Jane (LOVE) Studio

Hey, Jane here.

Do you want to attract someone but don’t know how? Did you already try different strategies but none have worked so far? Why don’t you try adding a little bit of musicality?

Jason says I look hot with these headphones!

I went to talk to my friend Jason from Calgary, Alberta, who is a master at cello, and this is what he says.

“Music is one of the best ways to strengthen the power of attraction,” says Jason. “Majority of people love music.” Different kinds of music attract different people. Dating can boil an attraction when music is incorporated on it. Imagine watching a romantic movie without background music. It has no impact. It’s boring and you don’t feel any emotions of love. Music is the reason why a lot of musical bands easily get so popular that it boosted the music industry.

Using Music For… Dating?

In other words, music can be a powerful ingredient to a successful dating. With music in dating, there’s no room for boredom, just love, love, and love. The funny thing though is that most people overlook at what music can do in terms of dating a special person. If they are not good in music, they easily give up with this kind of strategy. Well, to tell you the truth, you don’t have to be good at music to attract someone you like. You don’t have to have gone to music lessons in the past to bring that special someone closer to you.

It may be a bit unfortunate for some people who don’t have the talent in music. But that doesn’t mean they can’t use music to attract their special someone. If you want to use music to attract your potential partner but don’t have the talent for it, don’t fret. There are always better ways… like playing her a seductive song!

See this article – http://www.nerve.com/entertainment/music/title-tk

Music is everywhere. The easiest way is to download them. Have a date with the girl or guy you like and play romantic music while eating and then dance together as if the music will never end.

One of the most effective kinds of music that can be very attractive is the classical music. You can search and download for instrumental versions of popular love songs. A piano or a violin instrumental can be more than enough to keep the fire of love burning.

Talented? Use It!

If you have the innate talent of music, then take it as your best advantage. Singing love songs can be very romantic. It uplifts people’s spirit and calms their thoughts. If you are talented at it, go ahead and flaunt it. If you have an additional talent of composing music, then that would be an added bonus. You can use that talent to express your feelings toward a person. You can also use it to take away their pain and frustrations in life. It makes you even more attractive. Want to know how to get a girl friend? Then learn a musical instrument!

Music begets good and happy memories – memories that people have with their special person in life. This is why lovers have theme songs. It is that kind of magic that music can provide. So don’t underestimate music. Go ahead and choose the best love song that can attract your special someone and dedicate it to him or her. Attracting someone through music could be one of the most romantic and effective dating strategies.

Here’s a good site on meditation music – I also use it to meditate, and it works like magic. Try it!

- Plain Jane

Hi guys! Have you ever experienced a sudden mood change in your girlfriends, and you’re left clueless? Well, this is one reason – there are people, mostly girls, that annoy your girlfriends by their mere presence. And if you don’t take this seriously, it could mean World War III. Not kidding!

The title says it all. There are girls around your circle that we hate and you should practically avoid by all means (or at least avoid being alone with) for the sake of world peace. Girls are naturally wired to be jealous about each other and if you don’t want to be caught in a barrage of cat fights, then by all means, please oblige your girlfriends.

There are things women hate about men. And there are women whom women hate. These are things you should keep in mind.

No darling, we are in no way trying to have you alienate yourself from the rest of civilization; we are just protecting what we think is ours: you.

Whom to Avoid

Whatever causes jealousy, it is best to just avoid it altogether. So listen up, be proud and flattered that your lady loves you so much she doesn’t want to give the littlest piece of you to some other girl, and know that these are the women who are bound to start fights:

1. The Single Woman – Just. Because. She. Is. Single. Even when she’s not doing it yet, we automatically think that she is bound to do something sooner or later that resembles ‘flirting’. She is single and she therefore has every avenue to try to snag you so by all means, don’t be alone with her.

2.The Attractive Officemate or Classmate – if she, in any way, has the face of pre-surgery Megan Fox, or the torso of January Jones, maybe even the booty of Kim Kardashian, she is toxic to us. Even when she’s the CEO of your company or she’s gay or whatever she is that makes it impossible for her to notice you, we hate her.

To maintain world peace, avoid the girls that your girlfriends might hate.

3. The Nice Girl – most everything starts with a nice gesture. We don’t care if her parents are presidents of the biggest charity group in the country or it’s in her DNA to give out cookies to everyone. Her cookies might make you fall for her. NO.

4. Your Girl Bestfriend – best friends know you better, understand you better, and in every aspect better than us at understanding you. We’re convinced that she will always be a threat because you genuinely care for each other and we, thy poor girlfriends, shall never know if somewhere in your distant (or recent) past you’d have fallen for each other.

5. Your Ex – for some reason, women logic does not see the point of ‘past is past’. You’ve loved her, you know her, you had memories with her that we can never take away from you and who knows, somewhere deep in the crevices of your heart you’re still thinking about her or memories of her floods your mind with what ifs. That’s a pretty tough competition.

Female jealousy is but as normal as the DNA in your own body. In some girls, it’s stronger and harder to control. But man, trust me, even when she’s not saying anything she is feeling a bit of pang of the J word in there. Especially if she saw that you were browsing a site like this when you’re not together. So do us all a favor and never be caught alone in the company of either of these women or find yourself talking about these women randomly.

Bonjour, my loves! Hope everyone’s having a good time dating. I’ve received compliments on the tips I’ve been posting, and so I decided to write about…compliments! I’d like to kick off by giving tips to men first. I have yet to get a guy friend write about how to compliment men. So women, relax for  a bit while the men get the lessons first.

Complimenting a woman is tricky business. You could come out as a true gentleman at best, or a loser or a playboy at worst. There is not one secret to achieving the perfect complimentary remark for a woman. Done right, you may get score a date (or another date, as the case may be). Do it awfully wrong and you may just have bid goodbye to your chances at getting to know a girl more and risk being called a douche. It’s quite flattering how guys do really want to get the girls they want, but are, unfortunately, doing the wrong things. Speaking of, I’ve found a really interesting article about how to ask a girl out. I think it’s really cute, you should check it out. Anyway, back to compliments.

Sincerity is key to complimenting a woman.

See, women love compliments but not just any compliment. While men may be content with “wow you’re looking hot” or “you’re so sexy” or even “you’ve got a huge…arm”, women look for something more holistic. And physical compliments, gents and gents, are only the first and shallowest level of it. And are deemed by us women as the least sincere of all. And and and… if overdone, you are going to sound like a totally senseless and insensitive guy who’s only after her body. If undone, you’ll still be an insensitive guy who does not know how to appreciate a woman’s beauty and you leave her feeling insecure. Are you now confused?

So how do you compliment a woman properly? Here are some tips:

1. Nothing beats sincerity. Always be sincere about you compliments. Unless you have a degree in Performance Arts from UCLA or NYU, you can hardly pull off a fake compliment. Girls are blessed by Momma Nature for some extra sensitivity a.k.a. intuition so we can tell a fake from a sincere compliment. We also know how big liars men can be, sorry. If you think she looks heavy around the middle but her eye makeup makes her look stunning, forget about the tummy and tell her how tantalizing her eyes are.
2. Do not go sexual. Unless she’s your girlfriend or your wife and you guys have already been sleeping together, forget about how ‘sexy’ she is or how the neckline of the dress makes her chest look like bouncing babies’ behinds. Not even how the leather dress hugs her every curve. Do that and you’ll get face to face with her dad’s shotgun or her pepper spray.
3. Let your compliment go beyond her physique. “I’ve heard you did so well on your presentation today” or “well, some little birdie told me you are really awesome at closing deals. That’s really admirable”. Or better yet, go with “you’re really great with kids” or “has anyone ever told you how sweet you are?”
4. Let your body do the talking. And I DON’T mean sexual body talk, silly. A hard on does not count as a compliment unless you guys are planning to go to bed together. I’m talking about your more wholesome physically obvious reactions. When she comes out of her door in the most beautiful dress, and she looks like a goddess to you, you can never fake that jaw drop. Or the widening of your eyes. Or the stuttering. Or stopping mid-sentence because you’re lost in her gaze – these are better compliments than the most poetic of words.

Maybe there is indeed a secret to proper complimenting and that is sincerity and looking at what makes her truly beautiful – flaws and all.

One that would help you do the trick, too – don’t be too nervous! You know when we’re jittery, we tend to say the wrong things.

If you’ve been successful in scoring another date after your first, try some of these on your next date, k?

-Plain Jane

Hey, hey, hey! Missed me?

It’s been a while since I was here. I miss this blog so much! So, what have I been up to lately? You guessed it right. I am so engrossed in studying real estate investing.

Anyway, a friend came over last week. She had a fight with her boyfriend. Again. Since this happens quite a lot, I’ve thought of writing about it to let you guys know what ticks women off. It’s quite funny how you try hard to master how to attract a woman then suddenly turn into a jerk when you finally do.

Men and women were born to both love and hate each other. And this is especially true when it comes to relationships and managing them. There are big things and little things that the opposite sexes hate about each other and they’re not necessarily mere pet peeves. It’s pretty much in the consciousness of both worlds that cause these clashes.

First-hand Info

So I’ve rounded up all my close girlfriends and all my female friends on Facebook and asked about what they hate most about men. Guys, take this as constructive criticism. This will save your butts from potential fights with les girlfriends – trust me! *paging boyfriend*
And so here are the chart toppers:

• Men and ego. Yes, we recognize that there is a correlation between the male ego and testosterone as much as our PMS days are due to an influx of our female hormones. But seriously, what is ever so wrong about asking for help? We girls hate when men insist that they can find their way in a crowded neighborhood on their own and waste so much time going around when it could have been so much easier to just ask. Just ask! (And yes we would understand if you can’t open the jar bottle. It won’t make us love you less if you admit it!)

• The Silence. Women shut up when we’re thinking or when we’re too upset for words. Men shut up just to end the argument – or merely to avoid it. We listen. We will try to understand. And it drives us crazy when you’re not speaking but you’re clearly bothered by something. Over-thinking is torturous, you know. And we can’t help it when you’re not saying anything.

Save your girl from heartaches by avoiding the things she hates but you love doing.

• Saying “okay” to end an argument. Ahh, a classic. And my boyfriend is notorious at this. Men hate arguments and so to end it, you say ‘Okay…’ One moment you were a revolutionary, fighting to wits over your point, and all of a sudden you go ‘Okay’. That ends the argument but that does NOT resolve anything. Women want to move on to another page clear of any impending arguments, it can’t just be okay until we’ve both reached a compromise. Contrary to popular belief, and honey please listen up, we don’t simply want to get things our way. We want to get to something beneficial and agreeable for both of us. We’re not that selfish you know.

• When we have to say everything. Is it so difficult for men to understand non-verbal cues? We physically distance ourselves from you when we’re upset. When we shut up, we’re fed up. When we’re worried, we need a hug. When we’re angry, we could use a cuddle. When we’re tensed, we want to be left alone. When we’re obviously tired (we’re extra tired on days leading up to the ‘visitor’), can’t you at least offer to do the dishes? We really hate having to tell you anything. It helps if you’re a little bit sensitive.

• When you just can’t help but look.  Yes, we all notice where your stares are headed when a girl in really short shorts passes by. And it’s by far the most annoying thing in the world.

I believe this isn’t everything. But I know, too, that you guys have something to say against us, too. So let us know! We’d be more than willing to listen. A guy who’s a smooth talker is definitely attractive, but a guy who talks about his real feelings is endearing. So consider thinking these things through and do all of us a favor. Grazie!

Hello, readers You wouldn’t believe how hectic and fast-paced my life is right now– it’s insane! I’ve been busy with a lot of things, mainly trying to improve my quilting skills(seriously) and studying real estate management.

I know– quilting? Real estate management? What gives?

I know I’m a self-proclaimed Plain Jane, but I wouldn’t give up the opportunity to learn more about other stuff. I’ve written a post in here that gives you a 101 on how to research for real estate, and it’s amazing how I’ve gotten great emails because of it. Apparently, investing in property is sexy– so it’s about time you try it out for yourself!

I’ll be keeping you updated every chance I get, but for now, you can email me at jane@plainjanestudio.com if you have questions for me, or stories to tell. Would love to hear from you!

– Plain Jane

Do you ever dream about talking to your dream girl with ease, but aren’t actually sure how to start a decent conversation with a girl to begin with? This could be a problem even before you score another date with the girl you like. Well, breathe deeply and read on for this article has several effective tips that can help you get over your lack of self confidence and teach you how to smooth talk a girl in no time.

Before anything else, you need to know that there are two types of guys out there: the cool guys who get the girls that they want all the time, and the shy guys who always have trouble approaching and talking to girls. If you are part of the latter group of guys and need some help, here are the best tips on how to smooth talk a girl that you should follow:

Find out her name.

This is probably the most basic thing that you will need to know before you learn how to smooth talk a girl. Girls love hearing their names, so if you know the name of your dream girl before you even approach her, you are sure to score brownie points with her right from the beginning. Now if you want to ask me out on a date, here’s some info. Hint hint

Be yourself.

This might sound like a cliche – and it is – but being yourself will help you on your journey of learning how to smooth talk a girl. Girls happen to hate guys who act arrogant and cool. On the flip side, they love seeing guys who are real in terms of their clothes, their facial expressions and their manners of speaking. So, if you used to imitate the actions of guys who have found success in the dating department, stop doing that. Girls will see right through you if you do because you won’t look or seem natural. If you like music, for example, then incorporate that into your seduction. Some ideas on how to combine “music” with “seduction” can be found here.

Have lots of topics of conversation ready.

You can’t just start a conversation with a girl and hope for the best; you have to have different topics of conversation ready, too. This may be hard for some guys, so if you have no idea where to start, try asking her about her day or her favorite things. Once you have a good conversation going, try to build on it, so she won’t get bored talking to you. If you want a host of “hypnotic” conversation topics that you can use to attract a woman, then check out the October Man Sequence seduction resource site – http://octobermansequence.org – I guarantee that you’ll like it!

Avoid making sexy comments.

Sexy comments would include phrases like “you’re so hot“. Although this might sound like a compliment in your head, it will not always work. If you want to smooth talk a girl and get away with it, you have to start slow and make sure you only shower her with safe compliments. Although it may be true that girls love compliments, you shouldn’t overdo it, either; otherwise, she will think you aren’t being sincere.

If you want to learn how to smooth talk a girl and actually succeed, just keep the aforementioned tips in mind and follow them to a tee. Of course, you shouldn’t forget to ask her for her phone number, either, so you can set up a date with her in the near future.

Feedback? Let me know!

Love, Jane

You should already know that apart from running the Plain Jane Studio I am also a fan of real estate investing. So today I am going to share with you something I have learned regarding real estate over many years of investing experience. But first of all, the primary thing that most real estate investor must know is what I call “the buyer’s perspective”.

Picture courtesy of sxc.hu

When we talk about real estate, we think of buying and selling properties. Real estate business is big business. By the thought of it, people could easily think it’s a difficult business that only experts in this field can readily achieve success. If you ask an expert, every business for them is in fact difficult. But their secret lies to understanding the difficulty of it. That is, understanding the buyer’s perspective.

Every buyer is unique. They have different preferences but one thing’s for sure—they won’t settle for anything less. So every seller has to do their best to kindle the interest of their buyers. The following are some of the general perspectives of buyers in selecting a property. They can serve as a guide to making the business of real estate a little less difficult.

• Buyers Prefer Diversity

By diversity, we mean diverse culture, people, and environment to live with. This boils down to location. Generally, buyers want to be somewhere not too crowded but not too far from the city either. They want a place where they can mingle with neighbors or stroll along the streets with ease. They also want easy access to buildings and facilities such as banks, shopping malls, markets or parks. In other words, the more diverse the environment is, the better.

• Buyers Prefer Simplicity

It might seem impossible to incorporate diversity with simplicity. But to put it simply, buyers want to live in a simple house within a diverse estate.

Now you might ask, “But you said buyers won’t settle for less…why simplicity then?”

Simplicity does not mean less. The world today is getting crowded with tall buildings and high rising houses that a lot of people would want to have a big one too. But the truth is that only few people get big houses. There is now a trend towards getting a more simple, yet flexible house—something that allows them to breathe fresh air even if they are located within the city. In short, they want to live in a house with open spaces where windows are plenty.

• Buyers Prefer Green

There has also been an increasing trend towards having an environmentally friendly house. The generation of buyers today is becoming more health and environment conscious. That is, they prefer homes with enough space for some plants, small gardens and landscapes. They prefer a home that will promote less consumption of electricity and this is again connected to the general preference of open spaces. This means they don’t have to spend a lot of electricity for ventilation because they can already have natural ventilation.

Buyers nowadays are not really that picky with colors, styles and design. As long as the property meets these three general perspectives, it can be an easy buy and sell process. So always keep these three things in mind and your real estate business can surely grow big. Remember to keep it diverse, simple, and green.

That’s it for today. In my next blog post I will share more on online real estate research, using online services like -

• Realtor.com (US)
• PropertyForSale.com.my (MY)
• RightMove.co.uk (UK)
• KLCC Apartments

Watch this space!

Hey, “Plain Jane” here again with another blog post on dating, love, relationships and other things that screw up a girl’s life

First dates can either be remarkable or not and the outcome determines whether or not you’ll be having another date. If your first date was splendid and memorable, there is a very high chance that you will be having another date, and another date – one date after the other until you finally have a stable and fair sailing relationship.

So, after the first date, what’s your next move? How do you keep the dating on and on? How do you know you had a great date with that person you are attracted to? The next best thing would be to wait for the person to call, right? But what if he or she never calls? Does it mean you are busted? So many questions might wander inside your head when all you can do is to call. If the person did not call you, then maybe you should be the one to call. Maybe the person wants you to call first. It doesn’t necessarily mean that the person you have dated for the first time is no longer interested in you anymore. If you call, then you’ll know if you can still keep dating each other. I have talked about this previously – read this.

When you finally decide to call first, you should make sure you keep the interest burning. Naturally, you have to ask how the person is doing. It’s you who called so it would give an idea that you are still interested to bring it to the next level. Of course you wouldn’t want to tell directly that you want to have another date. Instead, you can say that you really had a great time on your first date. This would give a hint that you want to set up another date.

Being in love is the best feeling in the world!

Another way to set up another date is to send gifts to that person’s home or office and leave a small message. This small message can be a thank you message and at the same time a brief description of your next date, for example, the time and place of your next hang out.

Send gifts to her office address. Flowers are always safe and sweet.

It is sometimes good to view things through rose-tinted glasses when dating. So show that you like being with the person and that you want to be around with him or her again. Tell that someone how great your date was. You may ask about love, attraction, ideal persons and more. You also need to share your idea of love and relationship. It would seem then that you would be looking so desperate which would somehow scare the person off, and is definitely not the best way on how to win a girl’s heart. Of course it can be scary if you were in person’s shoes but just as long as you are honest with your intentions, that can somehow be enough to make your target hang out with you some more.

Moreover, be careful not to confuse yourself between romanticizing love for the sake of love and making flashy projections about love just because you want him or her to have another date with you. It can be obvious if you overdo it. If you feel that things between you are getting awkward, slow down. Don’t rush things.  Remember, you’re still dating. Take it as an opportunity to know each other deeper. Keep the interest and attraction burning as you look forward to your next date. When the time comes, you might just have leveled up. HuffPo has a good article on this here.

That’s it for today. If there’s anything you’d like me to cover, just email me at jane@plainjanestudio.com and I’ll be happy to oblige.